Recurrent Miscarriage-A Secret Society?

I'm not sure what it is about miscarriages, but nobody speaks of them.  I've seen friends on Facebook announce pregnancies as soon as they find out.  And then nothing.  9-10 months will go by and it hits me that they never announced the sex of their baby or the birth of their baby.  I never say anything because like I said they are Facebook friends, friends from the past, people you don't speak with on a daily basis.  My guess they have had a loss.  Why do they not post.  "We lost our baby."  Probably the same reason I don't post, I'm pregnant.  I feel like it's private.  Why do I?  I don't know why.  My first miscarriage we told everybody under the sun we were pregnant.  EVERYBODY.  When we lost it at 8 weeks, I was sad, mad, embarrassed.  I dreaded people asking me about it because I would cry right in front of them.  

I think we hide because we hurt.  But I think by us hiding people are very dismissive of the problem.  I've heard...it wasn't a baby, you'll have another if it's god's will, you have 2 children at least.  The list goes on and on.  We had hope.  Just like you had hope when you found out you were pregnant and went on to deliver that child.  We think about what it will look like, what it will be when it grows up, what color will we paint the nursery, what are we going to name it...just as you do, but then the rug is ripped out from underneath us, for no reason what so ever.  We are left with a hole in are heart, an empty uterus, and an empty heart.   I'm not sure how to alleviate the problem.  I doubt there is a way.  People are insensitive to miscarriages for whatever reason until they have one themselves. 

And on a medical note, my HCG is down to 65.  I wish it was 0.